Senior to Senior: Loneliness

Alone or lonely. When does the state of singleness become worrisome or even pathological? Families worry when they notice that an elderly parent is spending too much time alone. Seniors are especially vulnerable to loneliness. Studies reveal that loneliness often leads to depression, and depression is indeed something to worry about. Like it or not, human contact is essential for optimal health and well-being. Easier said than done, especially if you are an introvert, and many of us are; we actually prefer our own company. The idea is to find some sort of balance. Suggestions by the experts: • Reach out and establish contact with friends and relatives (introverts may not be phone people but a note, e-mail, even a tiny text message is a good way to start). • Say yes; accept an invitation to join someone for lunch or to go to an exercise class once in a while. • Volunteer; if you aren’t a people person you can volunteer at an animal shelter. • Take a risk; smile more, introduce yourself to a neighbor, initiate a conversation; It doesn’t have to be a lengthy dissertation, just a word or two. • Adopt a pet. Seniors may have to work harder to make friends but it can be done and is worth the effort. • Begin small; don’t try to reinvent yourself all at once. • Find a level of interaction that you are most comfortable with; a book club or a fitness program. • Think quality rather than quantity when it comes to relationships. It isn’t easy if you are a true introvert. If you find people a little scary or a little too noisy, make a date with nature. Studies prove that everyday interactions with green and blue places can be very motivating. It also helps establish a routine and gets you out of the house. There are many introverts out there; you aren’t alone. The idea is to put yourself out there enough that other people know you are just quiet, and not the neighborhood curmudgeon. It’s okay to enjoy solitary pursuits but don’t forget to reach out once in a while. Start small; smile at one person today.