Life is not always a piece of cake and even in
the best of times we were faced with a series of challenges. Youth and indomitable spirit helped us face
personal challenges as we moved through our younger years, but the challenges
associated with old age are a little more daunting.
Major roadblocks of aging
might very well include decreased stamina, decreased mobility and a loss of
independence. Add major body changes
associated with aging such as chronic diseases, decreased memory, loss of
hearing, and decreased visual acuity, and the whole picture becomes downright
depressing. However, aging successfully
means living a long and healthy life. How you act and how you think can determine
how well you age. You will find that you
that you can draw on your strengths to compensate for your disabilities, and
overcome most challenges. You can remain
as active as you chose to be. Normal
aging does not necessarily result in a slower or less efficient physical or
mental capacity.
So how do you face these
challenges? Dr. Frederick T.
Fraunfelder, in his book “Retirement Rx,” suggests that you try to face each
challenge with a certain degree of alertness and resilience. If you have made it this far you have already
established that you are a tough and you are smart. Reaching retirement age and
beyond should not make that any different. Acknowledge that your life will
change, but have a realistic attitude and vow that you can handle it. Embrace and thrive, which means that after
some initial denial you should just jolly well learn how to cope and move on.
The ability to accept change is on on-going life long process.
Life is good. No matter what has happened
along the way it has been a profound pleasure just being here. Socialization is important but it is also
important to appreciate alone time and learn how to enjoy your own company. Do not rely on others to make you happy. Happiness is within you. Vow to be independent because when you rely
too heavily on others, you lose control.
If you haven’t cultivated
insight by now, it isn’t too late. Try
to view life from other people’s point of view.
It isn’t all about you, so let’s not hear any of this “why me,” stuff. Feeling
sorry for your-self is a waste of precious time. There are still places to go and things to do
that can give you’re a sense of accomplishment and purpose.
There is a fine line between
being independent and being stubborn.
Refusing to accept help is often the “straw that breaks the camels back”
and is what ultimately leads to downfall.
This isn’t the same as just letting family members help you out from
time to time. I am referring to taking
advantages of professionals who can help you face various challenges whether it
is an occupational therapist or a geriatric case manager. Be realistic. If you refuse to recognize
problems you won’t be able to work through them. There are people who can help you meet your
goals but you should be the one directing the process. You are never too old to
make changes. Simplify your life and spend time doing things that you enjoy. You have reached the point now where you can
stop trying to be all things to all people.
Focus your energies on yourself and what makes you happy. My guess is that remaining independent will
be high on your list.
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